28 7 / 2014

28 7 / 2014

This weekend I got some much needed alone time with my husband.  One of the first things we did was turn a light chat into an important conversation.  Funny how that happens!  I can’t recall the exact sequence of events but he said something and I thought about it and realized that it didn’t apply anymore.  Our relationship has changed, we’ve had more and different experiences, and his relationship with his girlfriend has become long term and stable. 

It’s important, I think, to check in every now and then.  Make sure the things your partner told you 6 months ago still apply, perhaps see if there is new information or open up a discussion for compromise.  People grow and change as do their preferences and needs.  This can also spark a intrapersonal conversation.  I think we all should examine our own thoughts too! We can get stuck with ideas that need challenging every now and then to promote growth. 

It was a really great weekend and I’m feeling really good about our relationship.  I’m grateful to have a partner like him and still be very in love after a decade and a half. 

We didn’t end up taking any pictures over the weekend but I ran across this one on my phone today.  It’s from a distillery tour last year and I really like it!

28 7 / 2014

28 7 / 2014

Relationships are often misunderstood to be a simple commitment between two people; a dedication to each other with a sense of belonging to one another. Unfortunately, that kind of limited perspective breeds expectations, possessiveness and disappointment, and it reeks of ownership, greed, ignorance, and selfish desire. 
A healthy relationship is an agreement between two people to support each other’s spiritual practice. It is a vow to encourage each other’s dedication, devotion and path, free from attachment or expectations (yet full of caring and compassion). A healthy relationship is based on unconditional love, not one where your need is to possess. Although you put plenty of “heart” into it, you lose nothing by giving it away. If each person is equally dedicated to inspire, create, awaken and enrich the lives of others, then there is no hidden agenda. It is far less important what one receives from the other as what one can give. Intimacy would suddenly surpass warmth and tenderness to also include patience, vulnerability, honesty, active listening, understanding, connection, and unwavering trust. 
There is a healing power inherent in this kind of union, and it is capable of deep transformation for both people. It is an incredible opportunity to actually practice what you learn (from non-violent communication to meditation, listening, mirroring, authenticity, resolve, radical honesty, appreciation, purpose, equality, celebration, and mutuality). A healthy relationship is a collaboration of sorts: two peaceful warriors spiritually supporting one another on their individual journeys to spread positivity and light. 
May we all close the gap between what we believe and how we act in the world.

27 7 / 2014

"Compersion: an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy; the opposite of jealousy."

27 7 / 2014

27 7 / 2014

Crystal Clear Punchbowl Falls, Oregon

Crystal Clear Punchbowl Falls, Oregon

27 7 / 2014

I’m feeling very loved right now.  It’s a wonderful feeling!

27 7 / 2014

cross-connect:

NeSpoon is a street artist from Warsaw, Poland. Her artistic focus is on the intricate patterns of lace, and breaking its granny stereotype by using it to beautify gritty urban spaces. NeSpoon calls her artistic approach the “jewellery of the public space”:

Jewellery makes people look pretty, my public jewellery has the same goal, make public places look better.

NeSpoon often uses the usual spray paint and stencils of enlarged lace patterns to produce her works on the street via

artist find at Lustik

(via evacleva)

26 7 / 2014

I’m sitting with my feet in a soak pool reading the Louise L. Hay “Power Thought Cards”. 
I liked this one.

I’m sitting with my feet in a soak pool reading the Louise L. Hay “Power Thought Cards”.
I liked this one.